I remember the day like it way yesterday. My new husband and I had just blended two families into one. I was so excited for this new beginning of all that God was going to do. It didn’t take very long for me to understand that blending a family takes time. There were days I had thoughts going through my mind like…
How am I suppose to fix this?
How on earth am I going to be able to make this work?
This is not at all what I signed up for.
I don’t want my marriage to suffer because I can’t figure this out.
I’m not getting the respect I deserve.
If any of those thoughts or questions have run through your mind, you’re not alone. In fact, you’re like every woman who has been blessed with the opportunity to love and help heal a broken family.
Ephesians 3:20 says “Now to him who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us.” As I came across this promise from God about ten years ago in my quiet time, I was reminded that I needed to start looking toward the immeasurably more that God would do as I brought Him my hurts, hopes, fears, anxieties, and yes, expectations for our family to Him.
Looking at the word immeasurably is limitless. This means what God plans to do is not only limitless in His eyes, but you and I need to stop limiting God and let Him work within us and our family as a whole. He is the God who sees, hears and understands and is calling us to Him.
As women, we have a deep desire to be the peacemaker, and intercessor of our families to bring unity and harmony. And yet the only action we are really expected and encouraged to take, is one of surrendering that desire to the Only One who can bring unity, and harmony. God Almighty.
Whether you grew up in a blended family (or one that tried their best to blend) or married into one, or are the result of one due to a divorce or remarriage, you are not expected to make all the desired changes to your family, in all its brokennes, together. But as you surrender your desires and expectations to God and begin practicing biblical principals, like Ephesians 3:20, you will be amazed what God can do!
As I look back over the past fifteen years that our family has been blending, I am so thankful that nothing is too broken for Jesus to heal. May you embrace this promise today.
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